Reformed view on dating
To be a Reform Jew is to hear the voice of the prophets in our head; to be engaged in the ongoing work of tikkun olam; to strive to improve the world in which we live; to be God’s partners in standing up for the voiceless and fixing what is broken in our society.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my boys with all my heart (all 6 of them), but there is something very special about my daughters that delights me like nothing else.
A broken heart is no small matter, as so many of us know from experience. Contemporary society had fostered this with the rise of feminism, Hollywood’s romantic expressions of “love”, the accessibility of transportation (cars, trucks, vans), couple oriented dances, and the deterioration of the fathers roll in both family and culture.
This is the cause of untold pain in our world today, and Christians need to respond to affairs of the heart with respect, with care, and with the wisdom that God is able to give. In absence of the father, a Courtship is the biblical model we are to follow.
Yet, the text quoted above seems to indicate that according to the divine power of God, we have been given “all thing that pertain unto life and godliness”. So there must be a biblical response to this thorny subject or else the Word has failed us. This was not a sudden eruption, but rather a series of seismic tremors that occurred with increasing intensity and frequency through the 1910’s and 1920’s.
By 1930, the terrain through which young Americans passed en route to marriage would be almost unrecognizable to their parents.
Often the father would say no the first time, watching this lad to see his reaction. He has the right and duty to put up such a barricade, that only the most worthy of suiters gains entrance into the life of his cherished daughters.
Yet lately, as I kiss them goodnight and tuck them into bed, there comes to my mind a very critical question, “what will happen to them in the years to come as they discover boys? Thankfully my youngest girl is only 4 and she thinks boys are pests and only slightly above the worms they chase her with. But my 9 year old is only a few years away from what the world calls the “dating scene”, and my heart trembles with what I see as an example within the Reformed Church.
We are not given to them to be popular, or their friends, More harm comes to many of us through dating than in any other way.
According to the world, dating is a way for singles to enjoy the comforts and pleasures of the opposite sex.
Throughout history, the Jewish people have remained firmly rooted in Jewish tradition, but since its earliest days, Reform Judaism has asserted that a Judaism frozen in time cannot coexist effectively with those who live in modern times.
Reform Judaism affirms the central tenets of Judaism — God, Torah, and Israel — while acknowledging the diversity of Reform Jewish beliefs and practices.
Dating usually begins in the mid to late teens, whereas courtship begins at the time just to marriage.