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She knows her story — a Shakespearean tale of romance, a runaway daughter and bitter, unforgiving parents — has the Bay Area buzzing. “For 32 years I’ve lived with it.” Upshaw was disowned by her San Francisco family — the owners of the city’s iconic Tadich Grill — because she fell in love with a black man. Upshaw, 55, decided to speak out after she found that her family was opening a Tadich Grill in Washington, where she now lives. Her family hasn’t spoken to her in over three decades. You just don’t date somebody who is black or a different race.
“I figured it is time for me to speak about it,” she said. They were very set in their ways and so was my father.
She can understand that her parents were dubious about the arrangement, moving cross country with a much older man — Gene was 38 at the time — and still married. She believes her father to be an unrepentant racist. You’re younger than he is.’ But the bottom line was ‘He is black.’ I had a good upbringing, learned a lot, but when it came to the color of someone’s skin, you didn’t question it.” Gene’s first wife, Jimmye Lee Hill-Upshaw, died in 2002, her skeletal remains found in a field in Oklahoma.
And when Gene died suddenly, there was a controversy over the signing of his will and Gene’s son with his first wife, Eugene III, claimed his father could not have signed the will in his final hours because he was incapacitated.
His advice to the Buich family: Resolve the feud — for the sake of the business if nothing else.
“In my opinion, they need to clean up their intra-family relationships,” he said. If they don’t they are going to be riding the Wine Train.” That was a reference to the Napa Valley Wine Train fiasco over the summer after employees booted a group of mostly African American women from a ride, claiming they were too loud.
As a parent I don’t know how you get up every day and look at yourself.” On its web site, Tadich’s speaks proudly about exemplifying the San Francisco qualities of “tradition, longevity and honoring history.” But as this story has rolled through social media, local critics are questioning if, instead of honoring tradition, the Tadich owners are stuck in the insensitive, intolerant past.